by Texas Homesteader ~
There are many causes out there I want to be involved in. But when things start falling behind at home I have to learn to prioritize my time. As difficult as it is, I must learn to say ‘NO‘!
Flexible Days With Self Employment
When RancherMan & I left the corporate workplace years ago to live & work here on the Homestead we were thrilled that we were no longer bound to the traditional 9-5 work schedule.
Of course as anyone who has gone into business for themselves knows, many MANY more hours than the standard 40 goes into our workweek now that we are our own boss. But at least it’s our own schedule.
We’ve joked for years about how at our young age we were able to ‘retire’ from corporate America. But we’re not retired at all, we’re now self-employed.
To the outside world that flexibility is often viewed as wide-open availability since others know we don’t have to report to an office by 8 am each morning.
One by one other obligations slowly crept into our lives. And suddenly there just weren’t enough hours in the day…
Worthwhile Community Obligations
RancherMan & I are both active in our church and serve or even chair several committees as well. We also attend a couple of study groups and we’re both very involved in volunteering and serving on the board of our local Food Pantry.
But more & more requests for volunteer help were coming in.
I’m aware that there’s a tremendous need for volunteers – especially in a small town. And they are all such worthy causes – causes that are near & dear to my heart.
But how do you know when it’s time to just start saying NO?
Not Enough Time: Falling Behind In My Work
I’d been noticing lately that Homestead tasks not deemed hot-item chores were slipping. Then a few more, then even more!
I’m one of those people that likes to kick things quickly from my to-do list. But instead I was now struggling just to keep up.
Although I had deemed it a very important task I found myself behind in redesigning my veggie garden. And now planting season is coming up!
Oh well I reasoned, I guess I can squeak by with the old raised beds even though they’re crumbling. Maybe I’ll just endure the inefficient design this year. Perhaps I can tackle a new design next year.
But I also need to be starting my seedlings using my Indoor Greenhouse procedure. When will I be able to do that?
And the cistern enclosure is starting to weather and needs to be repaired. When will we have time to get to that?
Oh, and our remote pasture needs to be disked before the spring grasses emerge. Mercy me, when will we have enough time to get to that?
There are calves to register, records to update and much financial information to gather for our CPA.
We’ve needed to contact a bulldozer operator for months to correct one of our ponds here at home & also dig new ponds in our remote pasture. All of this is falling further & further behind.
Not Enough Time
Then recently a friend approached me and said she had volunteered for a very important community cause. But she was overwhelmed & just couldn’t do it alone, she needed additional volunteers to step up and help.
Knowing how I valued that organization she asked if I could help her.
Concerned that this friend was shouldering so much of the burden herself (and also caring so much for the cause for which she was volunteering) I desperately wanted to say yes. But my current obligations have me tied down.
Although it’s true the actual hours in my days are somewhat flexible, RancherMan & I have other community obligations and a homestead to look after as well.
There were just not enough hours in our days anymore.
Prioritizing My Time
But I was spending too much time with community commitments to squeeze much of everything else in. Yes I want to volunteer to make this community great. But I can’t do it all. I just can’t.
Family matters need my attention too. When my grandmother was on her deathbed I needed to push everything else aside to be with her. Not only for my grandmother but also to comfort my mother who was racked with worry and sorrow.
When dad had his knee surgery I needed to be available to help when needed. To bring them food or have them join us for supper so he didn’t have to cook or clean.
And I need to make sure to put time into my relationship with RancherMan. Even during busy days, it’s important to make sure we make Time For Each Other.
And I need time to just have fun gatherings with my family as well. It’s a bonding experience and an important one to me. So I need time for those fun cookouts and weekend sibling trips.
Learning To Say “No”
Although I believe strongly in the positions for which I currently volunteer, I’m thinking it’s time for me to learn to say no to any additional obligations.
I think there’s a fine balance between providing for your family and also giving of yourself for the good of your community.
I’m still working to hit that balance and I think I’m dealing with a tremendous amount of guilt for saying no.
How do you balance home & volunteerism?
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