by Texas Homesteader
So… the other day our microwave started turning itself on all by itself when it was opened. Wow, now that’s not supposed to happen and it just CAN’T be safe! I was so alarmed that I contacted the manufacturer immediately. Their response was basically that it was past its warranty period. They said there’s nothing they will do, it was my responsibility to get it fixed at my own cost.
I was outraged! And I felt totally blown off and vowed to shout my displeasure from the mountaintops. So I shouted that this company produced substandard products and had crappy customer service. And let me tell ya I hit ’em with both barrels on all my social media channels. I plastered it on Facebook – both on my TexasHomesteader FB page as well as the manufacturer’s FB page.
Of course I viewed my actions as simply standing up for myself – by golly no one was going to take advantage of ME!
Now although I’m not suggesting that you let anyone actually take advantage of you, this incident got me to thinking… I’m not sure I handled things in an appropriate way. My aggressive actions toward this manufacturer certainly didn’t make me proud of the reflection I see in the mirror.
Too many times it seems we hide behind a stand-up-for-yourself persona to blast someone else. Now in this case you could argue that I was blasting a company, not a particular person.
But when did our right to stand up for ourselves turn into the right to really jab hard at someone else, to go for the jugular so to speak?
Let’s take another hit-below-the-belt instance – gossip. Think about it, when you hear the words “I’m gonna say exactly what I think”, isn’t it usually followed by some sort of belittling of another person?
Usually when I hear those words it brings to mind a strong person who refuses to allow themselves to be stepped on. And that’s a good characteristic isn’t it?
But don’t those words instead almost always preface some sort of belittling of someone else (oftentimes behind their backs)?
And doesn’t it then typically lead into a session of gang-style gossip with everyone within earshot gleefully joining in the character assassination. A character feeding-frenzy at someone else’s expense? Hummm…
It’s Easy To Get Roped Into Gossip
I’m ashamed to say that there have been times when I listened with juicy anticipation at the tale being told. I’ve always tried to resist joining in and I certainly don’t like to initiate any gossip about another person. But I’ll admit sometimes it’s a struggle to not join right on in when tongues are flyin’. I guess it’s just human nature. (And isn’t that in itself just a little sad?)
But ya know, if this person is joyfully assassinating the character of someone else behind their back, do I really think they’ll not do the same to me when my back’s turned?
And if I’m excitedly joining in, doesn’t that mean I’m no better than the one who started the gossip in the first place?
So I’m going forward with new resolve to change my ways of dealing with adversity, to remain PROUD of the reflection I see in the mirror. I’ll refuse to join in to that juicy gossip session or to start that ball rolling myself.
When gossip starts I’ll do my best to deactivate the situation instead of perpetuating it. I mean, isn’t gossip usually about someone you at least know & oftentimes even like?
Why not stand up for them since they’re not there to defend themselves?
And from now on when I have something to get off my chest whether a complaint or concern I’ll strive to resolve things in a more gentle way. By golly It’s time we start treating our fellow human beings better, don’t ya think?
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