by Texas Homesteader ~
RancherMan & I decided our lives seemed to be too busy for the things we felt were really important. So we decided to slow down but live MORE!
But how? And what to replace that time with?
We took matters into our own hands to slow our busy lives down.
But oh what we replaced it with is priceless.
Are Your Days Too Rushed?
It seems we all get caught up in the rush-rush-rush part of life.
You know the feeling, where this task is hurried through in order to rush to that next task which is already behind because another task had to be done?
Maybe the ability to live slowly is being pushed out of our lives and replaced with ‘busy‘ to the point where all we want to do at the end of the day is plop down onto the couch & watch tv.
But is the push to cram more & more into our days shadowing our ability to live slowly & more purposely?
Are we pushing the joy out of our lives?
Goals Change With Each Season Of Life
As each season of my life changed, so did my goals. My goals went from raising our children, pursuing a career and making a home to other goals as my life’s seasons changed.
Now RancherMan & I are self-employed empty nesters. But self employment certainly means busyness!
Being self employed for us means working all day every day 6 days a week. (Sundays are for worship & rest)
Self employment means money’s tighter & there’s ALWAYS more to do – you’re never actually caught up with work.
Benefits of ‘Intentional Living’ And Slowing Down
So RancherMan & I shifted to ‘Intentional Living’. We’re still getting work done but looking for opportunities to slow down & nurture our relationships.
Maybe you’ve found the same thing happening in your life? Here’s how we’re determined to manage our time better while actually living more.
What Obligations We Cut Back
So many things were pulling at our time.
Volunteering for committees at church
Community volunteer commitments
Beekeeping association meetings
and much more.
We felt there wasn’t enough time to just ‘be‘. So we decided to push back.
As hard as it was, we simply had to learn to say ‘NO’.
How To Slow Down & Reduce Commitments
Volunteerism is an important way to give of yourself for causes you believe in. But those volunteer hours sure can stack up if you’re not careful!
We started limiting the number of committees we agreed to sit on. It was hard because it was a cause we felt was important.
But we had to do what was best for our family too. We had to prioritize.
And volunteering for our local food pantry is important to us. But we limit extra responsibilities attached to that volunteerism.
Yeah, we felt guilty because we know someone has to do that work. But we had to make it work for us too.
And those beekeepers association meetings were over an hour’s drive away! Previously we were pigeon-holing that meeting into our day whether we had time or not.
Now instead of cramming in time to attend, we started attending only when it worked for us.
Replacing Life’s Busyness With Relationships
We’re not afforded the air conditioned workplace we enjoyed with our corporate jobs. Our daily work often involves hot, sweaty, physically demanding work at the barn or in the pastures.
And our bodies are more tired at the end of the day because of it. Temptation is certainly there for us to plop on the couch in the evenings and watch TV until bedtime, I’m not gonna lie.
But we want to live slowly while we live MORE. So at the end of the day after we’ve had our supper, RancherMan & I often retire to the back porch swing with an icy-cold drink instead.
We swing gently as we talk about our day, our plans, our excitements and disappointments.
Sometimes we say nothing at all as we watch that gorgeous Texas sunset performing its beauty before our eyes!
But we connect. We share. We spend time together.
How We’re Keeping Our Marriage Strong
I’ve written before about Finding Time For Each Other In A Busy Life. RancherMan & I are careful to take time for each other away from our beloved Homestead too.
We go on regular dates to relax & to focus on and appreciate each other. It doesn’t have to be extravagant or costly:
Dinner and a Movie
Free Jazz Concerts
Sometimes we get away a little longer & spend a weekend at a romantic B&B and enjoy the surrounding area over the weekend. Local restaurants, fun shops and all the touristy stuff adds to the adventure.
But whether evening date or longer romantic weekend, we take that time to focus on each other and our time together.
Connecting More Deeply With Family
By simplifying our lives we also freed up time for connecting more often with our family.
Backyard Cookouts With Family
Special Occasion Gatherings
Sibling Vacations Together
Road Trips To Visit Out of Town Family
See what I mean? All the busyness we eliminated has been replaced with something much more important – relationships!
A Monthly Bonding Tradition With Our Children
Because of our rural location we felt we weren’t able to be with our kids or grandchildren as much as we wanted.
They each live between 1.5 and 2 hours away from our Homestead. They couldn’t find time to come here, so we decided we’d go there instead!
Each month we travel to one of our kid’s homes to share supper and spend the day with the family. We’ve told the kids it’s not meant to be a fancy meal, but just what they would be making for supper anyway. They make enough to share with us and I’ll bring a side or dessert.
It’s often requested that I bring a homemade Blackberry Cobbler or fresh Banana Pudding, or maybe Fudgy Iced Brownies or some other dessert. But sometimes it’s a side dish or just a bottle of wine. Hostess’ choice!
We spend the afternoon with family, enjoy supper, then spend more time with them after supper before finally heading home.
The following month we make the same arrangement with the next child until we’ve spent time with each one of them and their families. We then start over with the rotation.
Intentional Living: Where Is Your Wasted Time?
So if you feel like you’re on the hamster wheel with not enough time to actually enjoy your life, take a step back. Look at where your time is spent and where you might cut back, painful as it may be.
Are the obligations clogging your calendar resulting in no time left for things that are actually important to you? If so, nix some of them & free up some time.
Then fill that space with intentional living. Things that ARE more important in your life.
How Do You Nurture Your Relationships?
I’ve shared how RancherMan & I made this important transition. Now it’s your turn to share!
What have you done to successfully cut out the ‘noise’ in your days? And how have you replaced it with something better?
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